If you make a stretch request that’s not on the menu, they may at least try to deliver that too, or they’ll make suggestions based on how close they think they can get. For instance, you can tell a server at a restaurant what you want from the menu, and they will usually bring you exactly that. If you tell another person exactly what you want, the other person will often gladly deliver if your request seems reasonable. This doesn’t mean that reality will always deliver what we want, but it often will. When we bring clarity to our minds first, we can clearly communicate our desires to reality, and reality can see that we’re being honest and respond in kind. Even if reality could read our minds in such situations, it would only read confusion. It can’t read our minds and pull out some deeper level of clarity if our minds are confused. If we keep saying maybe to reality’s offers instead of serving up a firm yes or no, reality gets confused. One reason we sometimes drown in partial matches is that reality is trying to guess at what we want. With practice you’ll often find yourself crafting nicely aligned intentions on the first try. Keep tweaking your intention till you feel satisfied with it, like you really feel that it’s yours. Then let it sink in and see how your body, mind, and feelings react to it.ĭoes your intention feel like a true expression of your desires? Does it feel a little off still? Do you like the internal reaction it creates within you? Does some part of you object, and if so, what’s the specific objection, and how could you resolve that? Just declare what you actually want in a sentence or two. Whenever you get confused, it’s often super helpful to pause and clarify your intentions. This is especially critical when you’re facing those tricky either-or decisions, both of which seem like partial matches. On yesterday’s coaching call in Conscious Growth Club – which set a new record at 5.5 hours – I often referred back to the importance of clarifying intentions.

Just to clarify for your understanding